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What’s This About Process?

One of my best friends can sit down and write a post from start to finish in one sitting. It’ll need some editing, but the ideas are there, the voice strong, and the argument mostly formed. I hate her. Another friend of mine writes poetry. He calls them blogs, but they’re poems. Each day he (…)

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See You On The Other Side

Few years ago Robert Cialdini wrote the book Influence that outlines the ways in which you can persuade people. [cue ethical debate here] We’ll talk ethics another time because today I want to talk consistency. It’s been a while since I read that book, but the chapter on commitment and consistency stands out as the (…)

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There Are Eight Planets In The Solar System

The song goes like this: There are 8 planets 8 planets In the solar system It’s a terrible song and it plays on repeat in my house because I have a toddler who enjoys <strike> torturing me </strike> learning things on YouTube. I remember when Pluto was demoted from “planet” to “dwarf planet” in 2006. (…)

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Red or Yellow?

This is ridiculous but here it is: I was gifting myself a pair of loafers and when it came time to actually choose a pair, I couldn’t decide. For weeks, I was paralyzed with indecision about a pair of freaking shoes I was buying for fun. The rational side of my brain got stuck on practical (…)

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Something A Little Different

You know when you eat too much cheese and you turn into a human blob of bloating and immobility? I feel like we’ve all eaten too much cheese. We’re encumbered. Some of us are encumbered with children or spouses, others encumbered with silence and stillness. They’re two sides of the same coin. You can’t have (…)

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How To Become Exceptional and Extraordinary

Hi |*FIRST NAME*| I wrote that on purpose. It wasn’t a mistake. I wrote FIRST NAME and put asterisks around it and then added lines. DO YOU HAVE ANXIETY. The first time I sent an email out to a BIG list with, “Hi |*FIRST NAME*|,” I was 100% certain I was going to be fired. (…)

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What Would You Do If You Had All The Money In The World?

There is a question they ask in self-help groups that drives me crazy. The question is: “What would you do with your time if you had $10 million in cash?” The first problem with this question is it assumes the people who struggle with what they’re doing in their lives don’t have $10 million in cash, which is (…)

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Stay Curious My Friends

A friend of mine’s been insisting I listen to Brene Brown’s new podcast, Unlocking Us, but, instead, I did the opposite and just went on with my life. This particular friend doesn’t let up, so I reluctantly listened to Brene talk to Celeste Ng and  Ibram X. Kendi and Kerry Washington and Alicia Keys and I WAS HOOKED BECAUSE IT’S A REALLY WONDERFUL (…)

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