Psychology

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New Research Suggests You Suck At Giving Advice (Especially If You Think You’re Good At It)

A recent study in a prestigious journal that’s definitely real and not made up discovered a new metric that defines how competent you are at giving advice. It’s called your CATB score. Your CATB score is the degree to which you’re Chomping At The Bit to say something. The higher your CATB score, the worse you are…

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When It’s Ok To Lie

We were at brunch when the beautiful blonde took a sip of her mimosa and said, “I don’t get what the big deal is. Everyone lies.” The other three women shook their heads in agreement and took a bite of their salads. No one seemed shocked or put off by the comment (except me). I…

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Let’s Stop Hating on Experts, Shall We?

One of my favorite moments of all time was at a roundtable with Esther Perel. There were 10 of us and this guy raises his hand and asks how he can be a better husband to his wife who’s pregnant because he knows that when you’re pregnant your brain changes and he’d like to support her.…

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What’s Holding You Back From Doing Your Work?

She was like a character out of a storybook. The scary witch. Her hair disheveled and she always wore black and smelled like cigarettes. When I asked her for feedback on the fifth draft of my thesis, she said that I couldn’t use one of the books I’d chosen. “I get that you love it.…

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How To Get People To Stop Parking Like Assholes (A Lesson In Behavior Change)

There’s a lotta talk about copy being the “be all end all” to behavior change. And while it matters, it’s not actually the thing that moves the needle. Exhibit A. This email from a property manager to her residents. Technically, this emails follows all the copy rules. Language is clear, not clever Doesn’t break the left margin…

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The Secret Advantage of Peer Pressure

When you’re a kid they warn you about “peer pressure.” I remember being very concerned about this. One day a kid would come up to me and ask me to do drugs. And I’d be like “NO!” and make my 4th-grade class proud! I was a cute little 4th grader. As you know from your…

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Why You Need To Go Back To Trusting Your Instincts and Start Having Fun

One the most destructive things no one talks about is when you stop trusting your instincts. It happens at different times for each of us, but it always the same shift. You go from “this is fun!” ——> “oh sh*t, there are consequences.” For a lot of us, school is the culprit behind this shift.…

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The New Rules of Gift Giving

It was awkward. The couch was sweaty. Probably because I was nervous. I don’t know. All I knew was it was uncomfortable. We’d decided not to do gifts that holiday season. It felt like a scene out of 20th century England. No one said anything directly, but their faces were judging us. We’d made a…

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