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How To Become Exceptional and Extraordinary

Hi |*FIRST NAME*| I wrote that on purpose. It wasn’t a mistake. I wrote FIRST NAME and put asterisks around it and then added lines. DO YOU HAVE ANXIETY. The first time I sent an email out to a BIG list with, “Hi |*FIRST NAME*|,” I was 100% certain I was going to be fired. (…)

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Remote Bartending Is A Thing Now

Few years ago, I had my own column at Inc. Inc sold my email address to some company named Meltwater that has since distributed it to every bad PR company in the Western Hemisphere. No matter how many requests I make to be removed (and how many years go by that I am no longer an Inc (…)

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What Would You Do If You Had All The Money In The World?

There is a question they ask in self-help groups that drives me crazy. The question is: “What would you do with your time if you had $10 million in cash?” The first problem with this question is it assumes the people who struggle with what they’re doing in their lives don’t have $10 million in cash, which is (…)

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Stay Curious My Friends

A friend of mine’s been insisting I listen to Brene Brown’s new podcast, Unlocking Us, but, instead, I did the opposite and just went on with my life. This particular friend doesn’t let up, so I reluctantly listened to Brene talk to Celeste Ng and  Ibram X. Kendi and Kerry Washington and Alicia Keys and I WAS HOOKED BECAUSE IT’S A REALLY WONDERFUL (…)

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Brace For Impact

I’m fighting every bone in my body that wants to win the Performance Activism Anti-Racist Olympics right now. Drive-by activism is appealing. I get to post and share and it doesn’t actually cost me anything. Listen, I am nowhere near qualified to address what’s happening right now and am in the midst of confronting my own (…)

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Stop Blaming Advertisers

For a hot second during quarantine Hulu had a bunch of old Bond movies up and my husband and I could not get enough.  Old James Bond movies are terrible. They’re slow, the plots are dumb, the special effects are obvious, and the fight scenes are super awkward. They’re also EXTREMELY racist. Like, next-level offensive. (…)

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Beauty Amidst A Pandemic

Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens. Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens. Brown paper packages tied up with strings. 🎶​Please tell me more of your fa-vor-ite thiiiiiiiings. 🎶 I need some good news y’all. Earlier this week my aunt shared a beautiful story about her friend whose family is thriving now that they’re not encumbered (…)

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Why Feminism Isn’t Going Backwards, But Can’t Seem To Move Forward

Can we lay something to rest real quick? I’m hearing a lot of folks lament feminism going backward, citing how the majority of the domestic labor right now is falling on women. We’re taking care of the children, giving up our careers, and managing the household cooking, cleaning, and allthethings. I hear this. I feel (…)

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